"Stop assigning blame. This is the first step. Stop assigning
blame and leave the past behind you.
You know whose fault it is that your life isn’t perfect. Your
boss. Your teachers. Your ex-lovers. The ones who hurt you,
the ones who abused you, the ones who left you bleeding. Or
even yourself. You know whose fault it is — you’ve been
telling yourself your whole life. Knowing whose fault it is
that your life sucks is an excellent way to absolve yourself
of any reponsibility for taking your life into your own hands.
Forget about it. Let it go. The past isn’t real. “That was
in another country, and besides, the wench is dead.” If we’re
not talking about something that is real and present and in
your life right now, then it doesn’t matter. Nothing can
be done about it. If nothing can be done about it, then don’t
spend your energy dwelling on it — you have other things to do…"